I too have read a lot that is not about the games but I see the point about the action. I am not much into the action stuff - and in fact if you asked me for a list of my top 10 books I bet only THG would be considered an "action" book. I looked over books SC mentions reading too and none of them seemed to be "action" as I recall. I do agree with you that the games are wrong and there does seem to be a focus on the games, especially when it comes to the movie. I also think there is a mistaken focus on the love triangle thing. I think SC is trying to make us discuss things in our society like war and love and not come out in favor of things like how Hollywood "uses" children and for us to think about the reasons and fighting of war, and what is essential in our relationships. I don't think she gives us answers but I do think she leaves it open for lots of interpretations. Though I would imagine she is hoping we don't favor the Capitol method (though one could argue as a society we do in many ways right now). So I take your point and can only say maybe some "non-action" would help. SC makes the point several times that build is longer and harder then destroying and I have said any follow up that details the building of Panem would be long and tedious and not full of much action. Building is just full of hard work. People would be discussing ideas not running around fighting. This is why wars are huge parts of history books - there is more action to pay attention to. But I would also argue if I was Peeta or Katniss or Gale I'd be looking forward to some boring times as opposed to more "action." There is something to be said about appreciating the peaceful times in life.
I don't know if this helped your conversation or not but I hope so.
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